Advanced Communication Skills Hi everyone, A final invitation to join Advanced Communication Skills, my four-part Out of the Shadows course drawing on psychology, psychotherapy, NLP and practical coaching. Have you ever wondered why a conversation goes off track, or how someone else can see the same situation so differently? This course offers an opportunity to work in depth with the beliefs, assumptions, language and emotional patterns that shape those moments—and develop

Advanced Communication Skills Subject: Advanced Communication Skills -- Starting October Hi everyone, Let me share one of my great passions. Over the past few years, some of you have attended Out of the Shadows workshops exploring emotional intelligence, responsibility, motivation and personal change. Some have asked whether I offer more in-depth training in the communication skills behind this work. love teaching these skills, and exploring the beliefs and ways of

Shadow Work Group Sessions Hi everyone, Our next Out of the Shadows Monthly Workshop will be a little different. Over recent months we've explored a range of ideas and techniques for understanding our patterns, working with difficult emotions, and creating greater choice in how we respond. This month, rather than introducing a completely new topic, we're going to practise. On Tuesday 22 September, we'll revisit two of the most useful areas we've worked with recently:

Out of the Shadows: Assessment and Free Session I wanted to share a reflection on the completion of our recent “Out of the Shadows” Men’s Transformation Workshop—and what its success means going forward. Over the past weeks, a group of men committed themselves to something that is, frankly, rare: sustained, honest engagement with their inner lives. Together, we explored shadow work, unconscious patterns, emotional responsibility, and the difficult—but necessary—process of

In past newsletters, I’ve discussed the concept of the shadow. The shadow is that part of us we have decided is unacceptable. So, we deny...

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Last week I wrote about Carl Gustav Jung and his idea of shadow work. This week, I want to introduce to you a powerful tool for delving...

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Have you ever looked back on an action and thought to yourself: why the hell did I do that? Have you ever been shocked by the way...

In last week’s newsletter, I suggested that therapy isn’t simply for people who are in crisis or are broken. Here’s what I wrote: Therapy...

A couple of years ago, my father said to me: “Therapists are like mechanics. Someone brings in a broken-down car. The mechanic fixes...